Every day I see new posts:
“We got married a year ago and the sex is gone.”
“We didn’t try living together first and now we’re not compatible.”
“I feel trapped already and it’s only been six months.”
Why is this surprising?
If you marry someone before truly knowing all sides of them—sexually, emotionally, intellectually—you’re not building a partnership. You’re buying into a fantasy. Out of desperation most of the time.
Marriage doesn’t fix incompatibility. It magnifies it.
Especially if you skipped the hard parts—difficult conversations, sexual honesty, emotional risk, friction, boredom, jealousy, reality.
Someone once told me: people don’t fall out of love, they fall out of illusion.
I didn’t believe it at the time.
Now I do.
The 'honeymoon phase' lasts for about 6 months, after that all goes to hell if the 2 people are not fully aligned and compatible.