My boyfriend and I have only been dating for five months, but he is honestly the best boyfriend I’ve ever had and I truly love him to bits and pieces.
For context: my number one love language is physical touch; his is acts of service.
When we started dating, he would never get his hands off me, would have sex like 2-3 times a day, and always made out with me. He was almost always the one to initiate it, too. He also used to always be surprised with himself when we stared dating because he said he wasn’t like this with his exes.
About 3 months into the relationship is when the sex and making out stopped. And whenever we do have penetrative sex, he rarely lasts for longer than 10 seconds. He used to get me off using other methods before, but now he just says sorry and sleeps. Foreplay has gotten really terrible, too, as he’d rarely make out with me anymore.
We recently encountered an IG reel that suggests to make out for at least 30 seconds a night. When I told him we should do that, he just completely shut it down.
I have been open about wanting more frequent sex, or at least making out, and have been really respectful about his boundaries whenever he declines. But he just hasn’t really tried anymore.
I’m considering telling him that I’ve been feeling remorse but I don’t want him to treat having sex as a chore. Also, he doesn’t really lack in the other aspects of physical touch like holding hands or cuddling. He doesn’t lack in the other love languages, too. This is the only flaw I see in our relationship and would really love advice to see how we can work through this.