I guess this ones for anyone older.

Just imagine you have next to no money (we won't say 0 cause then homeless) and no friends/family.

But you got dreams for a big life. By big life I don't mean lambos and yachts with random women. I mean you want your own home wherever you want it, your own family, a barbeque with the kids etc.


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  1. I’d become a drug dealer. They say crime doesn’t pay, but the dealers around here are driving around in fucking Bentleys.

  3. Military. I actually had a fulfilling engineering career at 30, joined the military reserves as an officer at 31 and it just supplemented my regular income, has great benifits, gave me tons more connections, and I got to travel and live in a few fun places.

  4. Well, I’m at the tail end of doing that right now.
    I’m an Engineer at Sea now. I see to it that big Ships keep running as part of the Crew.
    It’s a peaceful life and you get to see the world, tell stories and enjoy a lot of free time at home.
    I spent my 20s moving all over the place, nowhere permanently but now have found my forever place and am now shopping for my forever partner.

    I had to do a lot of healing and learning to be OK with myself, but now I’m in a good mental place as well.

  5. Born again 30yr old with nothing.

    I’d go to a temp agency to get day labor work, this will feed you, and enable you to buy a bicycle. I’d then buy the cheapest Android I could then start delivering food near a downtown area.

    Evenings I would go to the public library and looking into local search trends think like Handy Man, junk removal, etc. I’d rent a box truck for the day and do junk removals. Using the day labor money. Change junk removal with power washing or a hundred different things. In a week from nothing you could get enough to start some low overhead business. Just check demand in the area.

  8. 2 chicks at the same time

    I’m kidding. But I’d take advantage of my health and my youth. Don’t stay home. Don’t be lazy or complacent. Just do.

  9. Step one: move somewhere with good weather.

    Step two: get a job, any job.

    Step three: join a league or club or team or band

    Step four: find a career job

    Step five: start building the life I want with the new people in my life and a career where I like to live.

  12. Get social. Join men’s league hockey. Ask coworkers out to lunch, coffee. Would also try other social sports groups.

  13. I had that.Achived it by 32 worked 7 in outta 7 for 5 yrs thanshe was not happy…all of that crushed and stolen.
    I’m in that position so after CM I have not enough to get by so now I’m going off grind pretty much.
    Social life won’t be effected since I have none.So I save money up to buy a big MF RV and I live whit my dogs in chill…this is for the next 5 yrs I think.

  14. I think I would pick a new place and go. Try to make it a true fresh start. I know how difficult this would be.

  15. Learning how to bartend is the simplest path to 6 figures once you get established at a decent place

  17. except for the family bit, I already did this at 29/30 thanks to covid, and going through a second divorce. Lost my job, enrolled in college and took a bunch of school loans to live off, started working security at this place that pays really well (not for security, but the people working inside), learned what I needed to do to get a job actually working at the place from speaking with people that worked there, put in an application, got a job offer, dropped out my senior year of college, and now I make six figures, have a girlfriend I want to propose to, about to close on my first home, and three wonderful kids.

    Uh, so yeah. Work harder, smarter, and get lucky I guess?

  18. I did that at 32. I had been dead broke for years with no end in sight. I had lost my driver’s license years before and as a result didn’t have a car, either. My fiance had passed away a few years before and I was incredibly depressed. I was a very skilled worker, but it was tough and I was getting into the “lifer” category in a field I didn’t want to get stuck in. Things were just not going well in life.

    So one day I decided to leave. That wasn’t the day I left, but deciding to leave was my first step. That was when I was thirty, and it took a year and a half or so to get together what I needed. I saved up money by getting a second job and using the poverty skills I had learned. I worked on getting my license back, and did. I got a really shitty car that would do what I wanted. Then I got a small loan from the bank so I could buy a camper. I discovered a rotten floor in the camper, so I had to replace that. But finally I was ready to go. I had no idea where my destination was, I only knew that I was in the North in December and I didn’t want to be cold.

    So I drove south, until I couldn’t drive south anymore (without leaving the country). I just lived and rediscovered myself for about three and a half months before my savings were starting to get low, then I started moving again. Soon after, I found a place that I loved so much that I wanted to stay. I got motivated, I decided I was going to make a career change. I worked my way up in my new job, soon being promoted to making more than three times what I was making working my ass off in my former life.

    I have a dog now that is my best friend, I live in a beautiful place surrounded by beautiful people that I love and love me back, and life is truly good. I found community, I found a life that made me want to be better, a life worth working for. I never had any of that before.

  19. Being how old I am, if I was 30 again and close to broke, I’d be buying as much Bitcoin I can cause it was $1 per coin.

  22. Don’t have any of those anyway. What can I do? Nothing. Probably should rob a bank or something but going to jail isn’t very tempting.

  27. One thing I’ll say is that you need to challenge yourself and be okay with being uncomfortable. Most of the time you’ll find growth where discomfort is

  28. What’s the closest, cheapest cool thing going on? I’d start with that. Do something you want that you can afford. A lot of museums have free days.

    I kinda started again at 30, and found a job I’ve turned into a career. Moved away from friends and family.

    30 is a great time start carving your own path. Look at this as a reason to start carving it, instead of just slaving away from 9-5.

    Good luck!

  29. Kind of want to move to a medium sized city in Russia and just live an ordinary life

    That will only happen if my wife goes to heaven earlier then expected

  30. It’s what I did, but at 40.

    Had to completely start over due to divorce, and career implosion which was tied to the end of a friendship, also. I was broke, nearly homeless, and jobless at 40.

    10 years later, and my personal/financial life is better than ever and I’m in a great relationship.

    My actions involved about 4,000 job applications, proactively/aggressively bouncing to better job opportunities, prioritizing maxing out my 401k, and advancing my career skills.

    I’m in a great relationship, but, zero interest in building a family with kids. I focused on acquiring motorcycles. Way more enjoyable.

  31. I did at 31. I left for my deployment to Afghanistan. Wife ended up finding someone new and my business partner kicked me out of the company.

    I moved across the country starting a new job in a place I’d never even heard of. I used that time to get in shape, really reflect on what went wrong in my life up to that point. What did I cause, what did I allow, what should I do in the future.

    I eventually got a new job (and new career), I met my now wife, and honestly my life is 10000x better than I could have ever imagined.

  32. I’d do what I did back then, freelancing and consulting while building my personal brand.

    The key is to actually have marketable skills and the drive to do prospecting and to close.

    I started with the simple goal of $100 a day and wouldn’t go to bed until I made that or close to it,

    I found online content mills to write for at $8-12 for 200 word post.

    Did user testing at 10 minutes for $15-25 and would do multiples of those a day.

    Would test and review products for feedback in exchange for $25-$50 Amazon credits.

    Do freelance gigs for $100-$500 a pop that take less than 3 days to turn around. $1000-$2000 projects in a month when I could find them.

    If you setup the right business model $1500-$2500 retainer packages with 3-6 month commitments, you get 3-5 clients and you’re earning more than enough onto of gig work.

    In the meantime you get whatever day job you can, many start at $15–18 per hour.

    Rent a room if you can’t rent an apartment. Jen used to rent rooms as a normal thing in the 50s in bordering houses.

    The myth of the average Joe owning a house was in fact a myth, it was white collar men in advertising like Don Draper.

    You also can just go into the military.

  34. And I still had my skills I’ve gained?

    Probably what I still do now but I’d just have to be more aggressive with a smaller network of people.

  35. Join health public service of military. Take a loan; learn to be medical ultrasound tech. Learn AC mechanic or be electrician.

  37. I’m turning 30. Basically in that position. Except I secured a house and have some money saved up but not a lot.

    I would totally reset myself mentally by resetting geographically. I would teach in Asia for an year or two and then see where to go from there.

  39. You mean you’re starting with nothing and you want an average life. If you’ve got nothing and no education it is going to be an uphill battle and you’ll have to work your ass off to stand a chance, but if you didn’t do anything for the last 10 years then odds are you won’t change now or you’ll burn out before you get there. It’s kind of like asking the question “I’m at a marathon but I spent the first 3 hours of the race enjoying the scenery and relaxing. So I’m still at the starting line. How do I get a respectable time?” Answer is you probably won’t. “Winning” at this point is just finding something that makes you happy, and accepting that you probably won’t get everything you want.

  40. Get into sales. Accept that its difficult, and that you have to become a new You to succeed.

    Lay the foundation for your big life.
    Start dating.

  41. When I turned 30: No job, next to no friends, no money. But I have a nice family.

    Germany here, so a little special maybe, but I would do the exact same thing over again: Study electrical engineering, find new friends in the process and build a new life for me.

  44. 35, no friends, no family, have a house but huge debt
    What would I do? Well, just do, do my job, do my gym, do my learning
    Just do it, but with 10+ years of experience than my 25

  45. I’d choose to delete myself.

    Life became horrible for me long before 30, and having children is the only reason I haven’t done so, so if I started over at 30 with no kids, easy decision

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