If a guy you went on a couple of dates with doesn't message after the first time you sleep together, would you message him or leave it be?
The sex wasn't that great and I don't really think im what hes looking for. I did kind of like him, and would honestly like to ne friends. We live in the same area, and go to the same places, so I don't want it to be weird or awkward if we run into each other and neither of us reached out after ? I want to reach out but I'm not sure what to say
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Don‘t try to be friends with someone who clearly doesn‘t respect you enough to text you the next day (no matter how it was).
How long is it since you last saw each other? Maybe just send a simple message asking how he is.
If the sex wasn’t good I wouldn’t reach out to him. For what?
He just wanted sex, that’s all.
If I didn’t want to bone again I’d wait for him to hit me up and then I prob wouldn’t respond
Sometimes if the sex is really, really terrible…. You might never hear from the guy again.
People often under estimate how mind blowing good sex can be. You get your mind blown from good food. Good sex can do the same. Terrible sex, like terrible food, can have the opposite effect.
lol absolutely do not contact them. They ghosted you. They probably just wanted sex move on and try to save sex for like the 10th or 11th date. Lol
Leave it be
No way just forget him. Regardless if you just want to be friends you’d be telling him you’re a pushover and that you don’t deserve respect
That’s not the type of relationship you deserve.
Was the sex terrible because he was inexperienced? Maybe sex next time can be good with a little guidance from you? So having bad sex is enough reason to not give someone a second chance to be in your life, either as a potential partner or friend? Are we evaluating people entering in our lives based on how good they are at sex or how good they can be as persons when they are with you? Why should he have to text you first? Maybe he’s also a bad texter (if so, there is enough reason to not give him a second chance?).
How I wish I could find the right person to date right now. Even if she is not experienced in sex, I wouldn’t take that as a measure to still be with her. I would see whether she’s easy to talk to, someone who’s not toxic, or doesnt make a show out of nowhere, even if I wasn’t the one texting first or arriving 5 minutes late.
In my opinion as a man, the way you explained the last time yall texted each other, he maybe feeling the same way about you. Especially if you said the sex was bad. He’s probably feeling like dang she hasn’t texted me yet because it was bad and probably afraid to text you first because he thinks you will ghost him. Anyway, I’m glad you texted him now, someone needs the balls to reach out first. I hope he responds!
Any guy who doesn’t check in after sex, good or not, doesn’t deserve your time and energy.
I’m so sick of guys using women as a blowup doll. They want free prostitution .
Tell him how you feel, admit the sex chemistry was not there, but that he’s still an interesting person you would like to be friends with. It’s a 50/50. He may keep ghosting or accept your friendship. No drama.
No. Leave it. Why would you want to be friends with someone who have used you and/or don’t have the decency to contact you after sex? These aren’t people you want to be friends with.
He wanted sex and he got it, that simple