18f here, I find it hard to believe people can actually be interested in me, usually when they are it doesn’t feel real, when a guy is just keeping me on the side and barely speaking to me I know where I stand I know they don’t care and I like the peace in that, but when they do care I don’t know if it’s fake I don’t know where I stand or if it’s real, love bombing is the easiest way to explain it rather then someone actually caring about me.
But usually it is fake and just love bombing, but is that so bad? Even if it’s fake it feels nice it’s still love? Can I just accept its love bombing and let it happen anyway?
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When you say love bombing, What do you mean?
Is he texting too much? Too many compliments?
People being nice isnt lovebombing. Please dont reduce the impact of that to just a nice person.
Lovebombing is so much more. Talking about a future before you’ve even met. Ramping it up once you’ve met. Saying I love you after a day,a week. Presents given,usually extravagant presents. Making you feel like the centre of their universe to then disappear like you didn’t even exist.
Its low key abusive because you’re Vulnerable and want to believe what they’re saying and doing is genuine. It never is.
Try and stop approaching every man like they’re not just liking some part of you. Stop sabotaging potential relationships with good people who are just nice.id probably suggest getting some professional help.
25F here, I met a girl (clearly, i am a homosexual 😂) a while back and we went on a wonderful long 1st date (unexpected) but we shared so much about each other and it felt like we’ve known each other for years.
Anyway, after the date I told her I really think she’s wonderful and want to see how this goes. She backed down immediately and just said she thinks she can’t pursue the relationship. No other explanations hence I’m assuming she was having the same thoughts as you. Which I can totally understand why one would think that bc I used to be in your shoes. However, there are people out there who are genuinely nice and will find you special and wonderful.
I’m just saying from my perspective is that I can understand why. But it does hurt expressing my care to someone, and have them think I’m only faking, or in this case love bombing.
I do wish you the best though and hopefully you’ll find a way to open your heart and accept the love that others have to offer 🙂