I (27F) started dating (25M) about 5 months ago. He calls our relationship long distance since we are about two hours away from each other. He did not have a job when I met him. I’m going to medical school starting next year. My current work in the medical field has been putting more work on me the last few months since they want to give me a promotion. I helped my bf get a job eventually. He has time to text me at his job. I do not have time to text at my job. He gets upset with me and says I am a bad communicator. Last month my best friend’s mother had to go to the hospital because she has cancer & she needed fluid drained. I let him know about this. My best friend had to leave the state, so she requested me to be there for her mother. I let him know I was going to the hospital to see her. The situation was very stressful for me. I was in the hospital all day for 3 days straight. He called me a bad communicator because I was unable to text much. I was trying to tell him that I could not because it was a serious situation, and he started saying I’m making excuses and not taking accountability. I had to go to my close friend’s birthday party tonight, and on Thursday and Friday work was long 12 hour shifts for me, but he is upset I could not text much. He keeps saying I put him through a lot of pain. I’ve tried dumping him but he asked for a second chance. He’s still complaining about my communication although I give him one call a night & I’ve been trying to improve. With the hospital situation he said I didn’t give him the opportunity to help me, but he kept talking about communication after I heard the news initially about my best friend’s mom being in the hospital, so I could not deal with it. He keeps telling me he will do anything for me and that I mean the world to him, but I just don’t feel this is healthy. I’ve been very drained by this relationship. He keeps telling me I have to make choices of who to prioritize and things like that, and the entire relationship has been stressing me out quite a bit.
To add, my mother does not like him, but I want my mother in my life. It feels like they’re both tugging at me, which was also draining me. He keeps saying he is affected by my mother too, and I just feel like he undermines my feelings.
Also, I have a lot of friends, but he does not in real life. I have many hobbies & things going on, but he only has a few hobbies. I think we are very opposite people living different lives, but he denies this.
What do I do? Maybe I’m not the person for him since the medical field is extremely busy.