A few days ago, a very old ex reached out to me on LinkedIn. I responded politely twice, making it clear that I'm happily married and wished her well.
My ex then sent a message saying, "Your wife is lucky to have a man like you."
I replied, "Actually, I'm the lucky one to have my wife."
My wife saw this exchange and said she felt "humiliated" by it. In response, she created a Tinder profile with some provocative photos and quickly got over 100 likes. She also started adding men on Facebook.
I told her this felt like emotional cheating to me. She responded, "No, it's not cheating, because you humiliated me." She also said things like, "At least these men appreciate me," and "If they think I'm sexy, then I’ll make myself available to them."
She says its not cheating because i didnt talk with those guys lol, but i said it's cheating because those guys are thinking you are single.
My own friend even found her profile on Tinder and asked me if our marriage was over.
For the past three days, I've been trying to talk to her, but she keeps making harsh statements and turns everything back on me. She says, "No, I don't regret it, let's first talk about what you did."
One of her friends said she did this out of anger( this is very sick lol) but my wife's words feel really toxic.
She's now saying, "If you don't accept this, I want a divorce." Today, I told her, "If you really want a divorce, then just do it." Her response was, "Okay, then I’ll go make more mistakes again because of your words."
I feel completely lost and don't know what to do. What should my next step be?
Update 1:
forgot to mention that she’s nowbeen praising her ex-husband a lot. She says things like: “At least he proposed to me, he made everything so romantic and even filmed it.” She also praises him in other ways, saying things like: “At least he was a real man,” and so on, lol. All because i talked to my ex and she is saying yeah he was a real men, he never looked to other Womens. Wtf lol
I did say one thing about this. Last Tuesday I received some really amazing news about a private matter that has basically changed my whole life. I felt she could have at least given me a gift, or taken me out to dinner to celebrate, or something like that. But she completely ignored it.
Today I told her: “Yeah, for your ex you at least made an effort you ordered boxing packages and bought him gifts. For me, you just go on Tinder.”
Update 2:
She said: “I’m going to fix myself up so much that when other men see me, they’ll think, ‘Yeah, I want to f** her.’”*
Update 3:
She is trying to login in my mails etc social media i dont know what she is trying to do
She keeps telling me all day long, “you’re really ugly, if you only knew what my exes looked like, you’d really become insecure.”
Update 4:
She has literally been on the phone with a friend all day, walking through the house and telling her how terrible I supposedly am that it’s all my fault, that I’m completely crazy, and so on.
I then spoke to her friend myself and told her about the things she had been saying about other men. She grabbed my phone out of my hand and told me I was crazy and needed to act normal.
Once again, I told her that I consider what she did to be cheating. But she just says, “You’re only good at pointing out what I did wrong, but what about you?” And when I ask her to tell me what I did wrong, she just stays silent. At this point I’m basically ignoring her, because she really doesn’t see the damage she has caused me.
Latest update: I think some people are finally making things really clear.
Right now, I’m completely ignoring her. I’ve blocked all her numbers, WhatsApp, and social media. I’m also sleeping downstairs on the couch because I don’t want to share a bed with her.