He (41m) frequently says I (40f) don't instigate sex enough. We have 4 kids. He is SAHD. We were both sick one day this week, but mostly recovered.
I've been drinking. He went to sleep. I got kids to bed. We're in bed. Do I make a move? I FUCKING HATE being rejected. He's been sick and struggles with quality sleep. He's asleep. I'm in the mood. Ready to entice…. should I? I'm OK with using my battery operated friend and let him sleep. But I want that dick
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Post title: Should I wake him for sex?
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He (41m) frequently says I (40f) don’t instigate sex enough. We have 4 kids. He is SAHD. We were both sick one day this week, but mostly recovered.
I’ve been drinking. He went to sleep. I got kids to bed. We’re in bed. Do I make a move? I FUCKING HATE being rejected. He’s been sick and struggles with quality sleep. He’s asleep. I’m in the mood. Ready to entice…. should I? I’m OK with using my battery operated friend and let him sleep. But I want that dick
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As always the answer is to ask. He’ll tell you what he wants.
But my instinct is yes. If he wants you to initiate more and has said as much, I’d say it’s highly likely he’ll appreciate being woken up (within reason depending on personality). It’s also probably gonna help him sleep better too.
Personally, I’d rather be left to sleep
That’s a question to be pre-answered for next time.
This is the main/only thing my wife and I argue about – the intersection of sleep and sex. Either I should have woken her and didn’t; or, more likely, I woke her and she’s mad about it…
I’ve tried to recommend a “hair tie” in a special place or some other “Bat signal” for “wake me up ya filthy animal!!”, but no luck so far.
Good luck to you!!
Wake him up with a Blow Job!
He is sick. You don’t have his consent. DO NOT, unless you want to be an ass.
I love waking up to a BJ. if he doesn’t like it shove your toy up his ass and move out lol
Go for it. As a guy I never turn down sexual advances no matter how bad I feel .
For a long time my wife and I were on drastically different work schedules. I worked an office job with a commute and she worked at a restaurant that closed in the early morning. She’d get home at 3am and I’d have to be up at 6am. Sex became rare. Many times she would come home late and I would wake up to her coming into the bedroom but I would always pretend to be asleep. Sometimes she would try and initiate sex with me anyway but I always hoped that she would just get in bed and let me go back to sleep.
I never turned her down though and never regretted it.
I just woke my husband up to get my back blown so fuck it
We have a child (almost 2) and we will “request a dick appt” with the other person, maybe try that? While you’re at it, in the morning ask him if he would mind getting woken up for sex
I’ve never been mad to get laid… if it were me, I’d be overjoyed to get woken up by my woman telling me “I want your dick” but that’s me…
He my not be in the mood at first, but I’m sure you can get him in the mood.
Sort answer: nah let him sleep but have a conversation about it tomorrow so it’s agreed upon for next time this comes up.
One thing that can be frustrating when you’re the one wishing the other partner would initiate more, is when they primarily attempt to initiate at inopportune times.
Depending on how often it happens and how frustrated he is about it, he could come away feeling like you are strategically initiating at times when you know that he’s more likely to turn you down, so you can say that you’ve been initiating more, but without having to follow through.
To be clear, this mindset is horrible and I don’t think you should bend over backwards to accommodate it. Nor am I suggesting that you’re actually doing that here.
However if it’s something you guys are working on together as a couple in a healthy way, it’s probably worth at least understanding that this line of reasoning can happen, often involuntarily, and it could be good to avoid it in order to avoid potentially taking a step backwards in terms of your progress on this as a couple.
It would keep me,from having to wake her up. haha
No actually I love it when I wake up to my cock in her warm mouth
I’m 37 years old and I have never met a man who answered no to this question, and it has came up in conversation in group settings.
You whisper in his ear. Do you want a BJ and sex?
The answer is always Yes!
No man is going to reject some head – ever. That includes sleeping
I used to beg my gf to wake me up for sex.
She never did.
Do it.
My partner (35F) and I (43M) have an agreement she can wake me up for sex, but I can’t wake her. I can masturbate beside her, but she doesn’t want to next to me and would prefer privacy.
These are important things to talk about. For us it has to do with feelings of rejection so we worked out what feels best for us.
You don’t awake him for sex, you wake him up with sex. Give that man a blowjob or a ride.
I would enjoy it . Not sure bout him
I always felt like my ex would wake me up to ask because she knew I would say no and when I would later bring up she didn’t initiate enough she would say “but I do all the time and you always say no”
Sex first thing in the morning most guys wake up with an erection and someone willing to take care of it is universally welcome
If you don’t already know if you should wake him the answer is don’t. If you want to know if you can in the future then you should talk to him tomorrow.