So I've had this scenario a couple times and I'm still not sure how to handle it
I ask someone on a first date (on a dating app). They say they would love to, but they are busy that day and we instead plan something for a couple days later. What then?
I'm dealing with this right now but I'm handling it differently than I do normally.
If the original date was agreed to, then I usually just say I'll follow up the day of, and we stop talking. I follow up like 2-3 days later and we go on our date.
In this case, we had to push the date back a couple days, increasing what would normally be a gap between asking and the actual date from 3 to 6 days.
This is my dilemma:
I feel like if I stop talking to them for this long, they will lose interest and it'll turn into "I actually can't make that day work".
At the same time, I feel like if I do keep talking, there are 2 possible negative outcomes
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I get too attached before a first date and realize I don't like them on the date, making the texting feel like lots of wasted energy, contributing to general dating burnout
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Conversation gets boring and one of us starts to question whether or not we actually want this first date.
What do you guys do? In this case she always responds super quick. Not many questions have been asked about me but she shares a good deal of info. I'm afraid of the second bad outcome because whenever convo dies, I ask another question. I feel some kind of pressure to since she responds so quickly (I don't like playing games but before a first date I space out my responses to avoid the first bad outcome)