Has anyone here ever experienced “perpetual first dates?” Thats what’s been happening in my life. I get a lot of first dates, but only 1% of the time it leads to a second date, and even less of the time it leads to a third or fourth. I think that a fourth date happened twice in my life, the first time with my ex, and then with another girl from hinge.

Why is it so rare to get past a first date? I had got to a second date with one girl this year. This is both irl and online. Strangely, I’ve had more success actually getting dates online, in person the women tend to ghost more or they are only looking for friends.


5 comments

  1. The first date says A LOT, so it makes sense that it’s the date that people learn some traits they’re not looking for in a partner

  2. >Strangely, I’ve had more success actually getting dates online, in person the women tend to ghost more or they are only looking for friends.

    Without knowing more it’s most likely that you’re passing the “looks” part but not anything else. Girls typically look for romantic spark/tension, compatibility, etc and perhaps they aren’t seeing that with you? I’m just guessing.

    Based on your post, I also think you may miss social cues.

  5. Lot of first dates means that your profile is on point. Now there could be a lot of reasons you arent getting to date 2.

    Your profile pics dont match what you really look like.

    Youre not nice in public to waitresses or at those dates

    You never ask them any questions

    You live with your mom

    You tell them youre unemployed

    There are a ton of reasons that you didnt divulge here on why you arent getting second dates. Were gonna need a little more info.

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