I’m not sure what it is, I think a combination of me being less of a people pleaser these days, being more authentic, and getting older. But I notice friends keep inserting their opinions on to me a lot and I’m getting tired of it.
It’s sometimes critical/opinionated or very questioning comments on how I’m doing something, or what I’m experiencing. I don’t have a problem with someone making a suggestion or commenting, but when they question why I’m doing something it comes with a tone and from a place of judgement as if I’m doing it wrong.
This post is very vague but it’s because it really is just for common small day to day things that I do and how I do them. People feel the need to comment on it, and at my age I don’t actually care how they would do something. I’m doing it this way because either A. I’ve looked at something from several angles and made a decision based on that, or B. I don’t really subscribe to doing things the normal way just for the sake of it.
Idk maybe I’m getting busier, older and tired of other people’s energy bombarding my own. I’ll be living alone soon so that will be one less thing but I just find it odd.
Have you experienced a similar shift, or situation and how’d you go about it?
EDIT: it’s not controversial topics (religion/social issues) where this happens it’ll be comments on how I go about my day to day life/tasks, and if I’m ever going through a difficult time/situation.
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Without examples it is difficult to comment. If anything it sounds like these are just opportunities for conversation. If conversation isn’t your vibe, there are ways to do most things more privately.
>I’ll be living alone soon so that will be one less thing but I just find it odd.
Sounds like your relationship(s) at home are a big cause of this stress. For me, I’m married and neurotypical, home is where I can act the most *myself* and decompress from the social expectations. Many people gravitate towards the “normal” societal things, and judge those around them for acting a certain way. I was religious as a kid and young adult, where those expectations are very strong to act a certain way. I know it’s especially a problem for neurodivergent people as they have to mask all the time so people stfu about they way they live normal life. I hope that living alone helps you.
I feel that way about politics and the way that men treat women. I find with these two topics, a lot of opinions are lumped into the most extreme forms
When I have trouble describing something like this, I wonder if I am the problem.
You gotta give examples
It doesn’t stop. You are just more aware/noticing of how often people just blurt out whatever comes to mind.
Being way past my 30s… poorly thought out communication in the norm and why you the stereotype of grumpy old people. They have lots of wisdom to share if they can remember it and worn down by people with no social filter.
For fun reply to those people with absurd random facts to get their reaction or if they even notice.
Good luck out there!