My partner (30M) thinks that giving me (30F) gifts or just slapping my butt is affection and I think he thinks what's he doing is enough. I'm not too sure to be honest. Maybe I'm overreacting?
Notes:
1. he cleans the floors of our small 1 bedroom unit
2. Cleans bathroom weekly.
I:
1. Cook dinner (in which he'll ALWAYS give "constructive criticism") right after work
2. Wash up after dinner (if he washes up, he'll nag about how I don't help soak and don't make his life easier).
3. Do the laundry
4. Put away the laundry
5. Tidy the house (to be fair a lot of it is my mess but when we get stuff back like laundry or groceries from outside, I'm the one that deals with it)
6. Take his laundry from wherever he hangs then and refuse to take 2 steps to put away his clothes
7. Renovating our home
He's not that interested in sex with me (I have a higher sex drive), is always sick and also constantly just sit in front of his computer.
I think I just feel so sad. I feel nothing I do is good enough. I feel ugly and tired. When I highlight I'm not feeling good about myself, he'll go "I just want to relax tonight". Fyi, he himself says I'm not naggy. I don't want to be. I'm not his mother.
TL;DR: feeling useless and ugly cause of husband comments