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Nuked my Hinge account again yesterday. Time for another break. So sick of the cycle of getting a decent amount of likes and matches for a few months, only for my profile to fall off a cliff and get literally zero activity for weeks on end. I already feel better mentally after being off the app for a few days.
For those working on themselves, what do you do when you feel like you’re plateauing in that self work? Work, Gym, dance, piano lessons, ever improving job, hobbies, little journaling. Only things I think I can improve on are variety of social activities and adding therapy. I don’t think I can afford therapy at this time, though.
Update from Mondays thread. The person I ended things with wants to meet in person and I agreed but deep down I just don’t think it will change things.
Any thoughts on giving someone another chance after like a month into dating ?
Met someone at a music festival during a concert and met up again the next night. He planned a lovely dinner date later in the week – it went well. They went out of town for the weekend and contacted me Sunday evening to check in and set up a dinner date for tonight. We exchanged a few messages but I didn’t get back to them until the next morning about dinner (it was a late text). They have been out of town all week for work and get back sometime today. They’ve been consistent with their communication and I haven’t heard back from the two texts I sent on Monday. I’m not upset and haven’t been thinking about it much since we just met. My friends seem to be more concerned and think it’s weird. I do think it’s odd to not get a text back at all, even if he changed his mind just based off of the short time I’ve known him. What are your thoughts? Would you see this person again if they reached back out? I decided Tuesday that I probably wouldn’t see him again unless there was a good excuse.
I think I messed up and he’s upset at me (basically I talked to somebody in person while we were on the phone and I felt bad about it). I brought it up after he didn’t call or text me for a day and a half to apologize and I think I irritated him more trying to explain my brain space. He said he felt that he wasn’t important in that moment (when I talked to the other person). And I apologized for making him feel like that and that I was sorry for not making the right social decision of just saying HOLD ON to the outlier party. He hung up the phone pretty quick after that. Usually he falls asleep on the phone. He’s been a whole new experience for me, like calling everyday since we started talking. I’ve never had that. So im realizing the phone is very important to him. So him skipping almost 2 full days was LOUD and sent me into a panic. I hope we can move past it, we’re only 4 months in. But I’m very sensitive to the cold shoulder (I think I have very anxious attachment). How do you respond to a cold shoulder? Just leave it be til he comes back around? I don’t know how to move here!
In going on my 5th date with a guy I met OLD. We had our first kiss on date 4 and it was terrible (he seemed enthusiastic but I’m not). We are doing something pretty expensive and it’s a special occasion for him personally. So all day I’ve been anxious because I’m dreading the thought that he will either proposition me with that 3 letter word or ask to be exclusive which I’m not sure I’m ready for either at this time. Either way I’m trying to keep my nerves even.