Sorry if this is dumb but to keep it short, been out of dating for a while, haven't really tried, just focused on myself and it's safe to say I've been getting more attention from women I'm attracted to now.

I've only ever had relationships from friends (as in we were in a group first) or dating apps (which I don't user anymore, I hate them) so I'm a bit inexperienced, but what the hell are you supposed to do when someone you find attractive just stares at you? This usually happens in public like at the gym or at a pub.

it's happened a couple of times with girls I'm really attracted to and I kind of just panic. Like "damn why are they looking at me, why do they look so serious, wtf do they want me to do?" I just kind of get lost in my mind a bit but wish I could capitalise on this as the last couple of times this has happened, I was actually really attracted back to them.


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  2. I guess it depends on the distance, if they’re close try striking up a conversation and if not- “smile and wave boys, smile and wave.”

  3. The last time this happened to me was in a massive nightclub in March. She was looking over, I smiled, she smiled, it happened again once or twice more, so I waited 20 mins. I then moved close to her and was about 2 yards from her on the dance floor, behind. She turned around, smiled and said “Hello, where do I recognize you from?” I said “I was over there smiling at you earlier” and we struck up a conversation and spent the whole time together. There was so much going on that I didn’t get much chance to get to properly know her, but she’s going to the same night again in November so hopefully it’ll happen again and I’ll get further this time as she was beautiful.

    So just get close when it happens, then see if it was just co-incidental or not.

  4. not every woman staring is necessarily interested romantically. sometimes people zone out, recognize you from somewhere, or are just people-watching. the only way to know is to approach and see if there’s actual interest in conversation 🙂

  5. You look deep into the centre of their eyes, right into their soul, give a little smile and hold contact until they break or it’s been around 5 seconds, which shows your confidence. If they still looking you check their body language for whether they want you to come and speak to them, if no either go up and be polite to start conversation or just leave it.

    Otherwise it looks creepy.

  6. Smile and see if she smiles back. I did an experiment with my friends ages ago at a very busy bar. We find a cute guy and just started staring/glancing at his ditection to see what happens. He did his glances towards us, did a walk around the crowd (I guess to make sure we were looking at him). Shortly after, he came over with a buddy and we ended up hanging out for a while.

  7. You turn it into a staring contest!

    Kidding aside, just go up to her and say Hi. Maybe introduce yourself. Then take it from there.

  8. That’s the way women show that they’re interested in you nowadays…..the death stare! Lol Na but forreal, women staring at you seems to mean they are interested based on the conversations I’ve had with female friends. Apparently, most men are either oblivious to this occurring or don’t take it as a sign to approach.

  9. The other advice here is good, I would just add to be aware that they might not actually be staring at you. I have had a lot of awkward interactions because I get lost in my thoughts (especially at the gym) and someone assumed I was staring.

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