I’ve made complaints about men staring at me for months to almost years to a point where it is actually creepy or even try to court me. I keep finding out they have girlfriends and it breaks me because I am left feeling like some wh*re I never asked to be.
Whenever I share this with my female friends who (think they) have never experienced men staring at them to this degree, they will jump to his defense when they hear he had a girlfriend all along and call me delusional or insult my perception. I don’t care whether a guy doing that is good/bad while in a relationship, but I wish people didn’t jump to invalidate my feelings, just because it makes them uncomfortable that things like these happen.
God, I’m not like that at all. I wish these men would stop being like this with me. I stopped feeling flattered and pretty and now I feel like trash. It ‘means nothing’ and I am always at fault for getting my hopes up before I am aware of a girlfriend.
I understand why people respect monogamous relationships, but does it have to be at the expense of the mental health of someone like me? I can’t enter my lectures without men staring me down or seeking proximity like I’m prey, but it’s my fault for recognizing attraction. People truly do act like me simply noticing is ME insulting the relationship??