“Communication is SO important to me!” -okay, then why do I have to wait two days for you to reply to any messages when I’m just getting to know you? Do you think by disappearing for days at a time and every so often bothering to grace me with a response that it makes you an effective communicator?
“I really value honesty” -Okay, is that why when I said you kinda snapped at me because I hadn’t texted you yet when I was busy at work you decided to get offended and leave me on read instead of talking it out like adults?
I don’t understand why people write this junk in their bios and then proceed to be some of the worst at actually interacting with you whatsoever. People put this stuff in their bios but it just comes across like putting the keywords into your job resume to get you past the AI checks. Not to mention OLD is my only real option because it’s not that feasible to meet people in the wild where I live.
I’m tired.
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People communicate what they want you to know or think or feel
People who use therapy speak or relationship buzzwords in their profile are an automatic nope from me
People write in their bios what they want others to believe about them. That does not necessarily mean it’s all true, though.
Never take people’s profiles at face value.
There’s only one rule that matters in dating and it’s this: there are no rules when someone is actually into you.
Stop trying to explain behaviour. When someone wants you, you will know. When someone is “maybe interested but not sure and probably not that into you”, you will post on reddit wondering why they don’t communicate when they said they value communication. They’re. Not. That. Into. You. Someone who really wants you will communicate no matter what. They’ll make time. They’ll make effort. You won’t have to play silly games. Just cut off low effort people and move on to the next one – when it clicks you will know.
That’s such a childish position. You’re offended by delay in response yet not answer immediately yourself. Of course your reasons were valid unlike your potential date’s ones.
Communication doesn’t mean vining especially if you only get to know each other. Your supposed partner is not your mom. Childhood is over
I feel ya.
I feel like there’s a lot of reasons that this happens, but it does suck to deal with.
When the women have dozens of matches a day, it’s hard to keep track of what day it is.
People’s communications in general are full of inane euphemisms and yes it’s because they choose words or phrases that they want to reflect themselves as being intellectual or savvy! LOL
The tbh’s, and yak’s etc are reflective of just inane-speak.