Partner Scared of blending lives
I (37F) have a 3 year old. My partner (41M) has a 4 and 6 year old. I've known him for a year and a half. We live an hour away.
My child is due to start school next September and I've said if she isn't going to school where his kids do and we live together it will be quite hard for me to continue in the relationship. I don't want to take her out of school for when he's ready or wait until she moves to a big school.
He said not long ago that he does want to live together but he feels like he needs more time.
Then he said he's not sure if he wants to live together as he's worried about us splitting up after (because that's what happened with his ex) and he's worried he won't get enough time with his kids.
These are all super valid and he deserves to live the life he wants with his kids.
I'm just not sure what to do now. The process for schools admissions ends in January. I don't want to not be with him, he's a wonderful boyfriend and treats my child better than her bio dad does but I don't think he can overcome his fears and I can't live half time with him long term. I want to be a family.
TL;DR Partner too scared to blend our families after initially saying he wanted this. There's a compulsory school admissions time limit for moving by next September.