I (F, 22) have been with my boyfriend (M, 22) for 4 months In the beginning, he was much more available and interested in seeing me. Over time, though, he became busier and more avoidant. At one point, we were going over two weeks without seeing each other despite my efforts to make plans.
I decided I needed clarity about where he stood, so we talked. I expected him to be closed off, but he was surprisingly receptive. He explained his busy schedule and his need to isolate when overwhelmed, which I understood. I shared my need for more closeness, and we compromised on meeting once a week. I left feeling hopeful.
Since then, though, it feels like he’s slipping back. We haven’t spent the night together in almost two months. When I suggest something simple like a meal at mine, he says he’d rather go out – plans that often get cancelled because of “rainy” or “windy” weather. I don’t understand the excuses: the point of making plans is to see HIM. I couldn’t care less what we do, as long as we’re together, but he doesn’t seem to feel the same.
The most frustrating part is that he asked me to be his girlfriend and has more relationship experience than me, yet seems to not grasp what true commitment means.
TL;DR Boyfriend agreed to meet once a week after distancing himself but he's reverted to avoidant behaviour