I reconnected with a guy I casually dated a year ago. I ended things for reasons that are too long to explain. He reached out in January of this year and has been in constant communication since! He calls me 2-3x a week. We have been really good friends.
Things were escalating. Around July, things got a little flirtatious and spicy. We expressed mutual physical attraction but that’s about it. We got sexually flirty but haven’t done anything beyond dirty talk. Seemed like it was heading towards a FWB.
Kinda seemed like we were just friends and having fun. He would do random things like caress my thighs, hug me very long, found ways to compliment my lips and touch them BUT things have not led to sex! We haven’t even kissed.
I just feel like we get along very well. We just had a 2 hour phone conversation today.
He told me “you lift my spirit up so much. Thank you for being there me in different ways. You make me feel good!”
Kinda felt like he was expressing his gratitude as a friend tbh. He’s been through a very difficult time after his mother’s loss and I’ve been there for him.
Last night, we had a 1 hour phone call and I’m so confused with such a random conversation we had.
We were talking and our conversation kinda got sexual. He was telling me the things he wants to do. He’d said “when I see you ima grab your booty and press myself against you etc etc”
Then he goes “you make me so happy! you make me feel a lot of different things. I don’t know how to explain” I then told me I feel the same way. He makes my days brighter, I’m always laughing with him and I feel like he’s always giving me the best advice ever
Then he goes “I wish I lived closer” (he moved 1 hour away) but then says “or maybe its not a good idea I’m closer to you because you’d get bored of me” I told him I would never get bored of him. That would never happen. I love his company. He also tells me he thinks he’s weird as a guy. I asked why and he said “I’m not the type to sleep around. Idk I’m cool off all the BS” which was weird because he were kinda talking dirty and pretty much it explains why we haven’t done anything. So how do you go from talking dirty to me to saying you won’t sleep with me…
Also he makes statements like “Ima going to take you here on a date” “I’m going to wear this cologne on our date” doesn’t happen …
What kinda of tactic is this?