Hello, I'm weird (I don't agree with how psychologies understand neurodivergencies, but I fall under the diagnosis of autism, adhd and gifted).
And as a weird person my presence creates friction in social contexts.
That disruption tends to be very positive, but I am aware that the line between a charismatic weirdo and an undesirable weirdo is thin.
I see it on my fellow autistic people, they can be the most charming and attractive people, or they can be people that makes me want to put distance between us.
When the second happens I get very selfconscious about the possibility of me being that off putting.
I think a lot about how socially succesful weird people then to harvest an armour that allows them to be weird on a way that is easy or enjoable to see for others.
Being pretty, being very higenic, dressing on an specific way, being talented, having many friends etc makes weirdness easier to welcome.
(I think there is a concept called indiosincracy credit that talks about that).
I post this because I am not interested in masking or de-weirdifying myself. But I am interested in learning skills that would make my weirdness easier to understand and appreciate.
I would really appreciate other people insights on this and what things do you think that gives people social credit to be weird, and if so, how to train those things. Thanks a lot!