I need advice on two different but similar situations. These situations happened in different friend groups with different people
In both situations, I was disrespected, was called names, and the persons that was disrespectful towards me were also severely racist towards me. In both situations other friends in the group witnessed the disrespect and racism. But in both situations they kept the contact with that friend.
With group 1 it's kind of too late as it happened a long while ago and I've also slowly lost contact with group 1. But with group 2 ive recently learned that the other friend (let's call him T) was still in contact with the racist person (let's call him J). I then addressed how I've felt towards T that he was still in contact with J and he got defensive saying i have no right to tell him to cut contact with J (not exactly these words but that was the message)
Am i wrong to feel that T is also disrespecting me with being in contact with J despite knowing the situation?