I (22f) recently downloaded tinder, just to see was out there and about a week and a half ago I matched with a guy (24m) who I’ve hung out with two going on three (including tomorrow) times. My issue is how to proceed. Keep in mind, he has no mention of what he’s looking for in his bio. Neither of us have talked about what we want out of this or what we’re looking for.
So, the first time we met I wasn’t really feeling it. I quickly realized the pics on his profile were a bit outdated and there were a few physical differences from when he took them and now. I was already there, so I just tried to give it a chance. Also, our conversations through texts have been good, but in person, it’s like trying to make something out of nothing. After the first hangout, I genuinely felt exhausted from carrying the conversation. I also paid and he didn’t say thank you, which was kind of strange.
I said, you know what, I’ll give it another chance. We go to see a movie, which was good and got ice cream after. He pays for the tickets, which I thank him profusely for and I pay for the ice cream after. Still no thank you after I pay. It’s still pretty early in the night, so he asks if I want to go to his house and watch a movie we talked about earlier. I pass on it since I don’t really know the guy, his house is 50 mins from mine, and I don’t want to have sex (I’m a virgin and not looking to lose it soon).
Fast forward to today, he asks if I want to hang out tomorrow for food and coffee and I agree (giving it one more chance). I plan to just pay for my own stuff this time. He says that he would love to see me, so obviously I assume theres maybe a romantic interest now from his side. I still feel as if there connection won’t go anywhere besides friendship, but I’m unsure how to proceed. Should friendship still even be on the table?
For more background, there have been no attempts from either of us trying to initiate physical contact (no hugging, no kissing, no hand holding, etc).
Any advice on what to do or how to proceed? I genuinely don’t want to hurt him or anything since he seems like an okay person, but he doesn’t seem like he would be a good romantic partner or someone I see long term with.