Overall I am pretty sure most people around me would label me as friendly, easy-going, quiet at first but more talkative/even seemingly extroverted once they get to know me, but I have found it nearly impossible to make a bond 'stick' after 30. Almost none of the people in my mind are married with kids, so it's not that.
I would meet and — at least in my perception — click with them because of shared interests, but when I message them to hang out outside of work, for example, they'd say it's a pass for them or they "don't feel like it", without any reciprocation or suggestion for another time/activity.
I don't know anymore what to think of this, because it keeps happening. Granted, most of them are also relatively introverted, but it feels like there have been too many instances for this to just be an introvert thing anymore. Despite being in my 30s now, my friends are still only people I have known since childhood.
Anyone feel the same? It's in some ways even more frustrating than if I knew for sure I am socially challenged, because then at least I can fix something more tangible.