I see there's been previous "why am I never invited to anything" threads that haven't had any movement in over a year, but this is something I struggle with so hard.
I am 39 and live in a rural part of Nova Scotia Canada. The city is an hour and a half drive from me. I have never really had many friends but I am good to the ones I have. I am reliable, kind, generous and always give people space to talk/vent/trauma dump as I have a high capacity for that type of thing.
I deleted Facebook/ig for a few reasons and don't regret it, not like it was a big factor in my ability to socialize anyway but damn, I always just feel so hurt that no one reaches out and invites me to anything.
I don't know if it's totally an "out of sight out of mind" thing since I don't live nearby, but it's exhausting that I am the one who has to reach out and plan days to see them, drive into town, find places to crash. I have told them so often to just like, let me know what's going on and if I can make it I will drive in.
I just can't stand the pain I feel and definitely get RSD, I don't know what it is about me that I am never included. I don't get invited to weddings, day trips, parties, nothing.
With the fairly solitary life I lead I am getting more socially awkward when I DO socialize, I'm afraid how it will change me as I get older.