does anyone else feel weird about being an older virgin around their birthday?
turning another year older at the end of September. I’ll be 26. (Female) it feels like a reminder of all the milestones I haven’t hit but as life keeps turning. I hate turning older as it’s another reminder I am yet to experience any real intimacy
You can see by my other posts it’s something I’ve grappled with but idk, at my age people are getting married, kids, all of these huge milestones. As I get older it feels less and less likely I’ll get to experience any of that 🙁
why is it so hard to date when you’ve had no romantic attention growing up?I grew up with such minimal romantic attention, no sex no talking stages no kiss, nothing- I was never made to feel desirable and had anyone interested in me and often felt the butt of the joke.
growing into my adulthood it’s been hard, I’m at the age where most friends are married or having kids or stable in their relationship and I just can’t understand why my brain can’t catch up. I find dating terrifying.
I’m so scared too put myself out there, because eventho I’m more confident now than I was as a teen, I’m still terrified of rejection and feeling unwanted. I just freeze. If a man approaches me, I freeze. It’s almost as if I’m so scared of it actually happening and me fucking it up. I just find it so hard knowing what it feels like to be attractive and desirable to others.
I just wondered, for those that struggled with romantic attention growing up too, how did you get over it. I’m really worried my fear and doubt fullness of people’s intentions will just ruin me.