Hi guys, i have a very specific question. How do you learn from interactions where you possible made a woman uncomfortable by what you did/say
For example: today i tried making a joke around a female colleague that i hang out in a group with during lunch. I was just around her desk and made a really niche joke/reference and it didn’t land at all. She just put on her headphones and went to work 😭. It bothered me not because I didn’t match her vibe but because i am thinking what if she thought i was hitting on her which possibly made her feel uncomfortable.
I have had 3 or 4 interactions like this in my life and it still haunts me. I want to learn what I can do better to avoid making women uncomfortable.
If it was male colleague instead i would have just shrugged it off as me being stupid but for some reason i am overthinking about these situations if a women is involved.
I would appreciate it if you guys can help me understand how i can grow from this to possibly do better in these situations or how i can think healthier after situations like these.
Edit: thanks for all the advice i am getting, i am understanding what I can do better and I really appreciate all the responses.