I always saw myself as looking for a LTR… not necessarily because I want an LTR but because I’m a stable, emotionally available, intelligent, cautious, considerate and deeply aware person. I act according to my values and focus on meaningful experiences in life. I believe in appreciating people for who they are on a fundamental level and also learning from them.
But… tonight I tried something new. I basically made it clear to a few matches that I’m open to short term relationships… which ofc reads as just sex… and I’m super happy with that. I love taking away the checklist, the expectation of immediate connection and an insane amount of spark, the criticism of my life even things that make me very happy, and the idea that it’s a waste of time to get to know each other and have fun together if I’m not the one, etc..
I just want to enjoy life honestly. I don’t want to take everything so seriously. I want to have fun and have sex and go out and I don’t really care if it’s a life long love or just someone I will enjoy for awhile.
Why does this approach get painted with such a harsh brush in our society? I think it’s a mindset that embraces our humanity much better than dating with a set of rigid expectations and boundaries.