My bf of a few months is off to college 5 hrs away and stated from the start that he wants less contact (basically a pause) for awhile because it hurts too much to talk and text. I agreed with him. So, we text a bit each day and after a week finally he started to tell me a bit about his school. Sure enough, even though it made me happy at the time, the next day I felt more sad. So I guess I’m trying to work through how I feel. I do know he is more emotional than I am. He also has less dating experience.
I want to ask him to Homecoming in 3 weeks. We never discussed that dance specifically and I don’t really care about the dance that much, I have friends to go with, but I really do want to see him, too. I don’t know if not asking him is weird. (He never went to my HS and although we’ve known each other for a long time we never went to any dance together. He wanted to ask me to Prom but wasn’t sure I liked him like that.)
Is going home to a gf’s Hoco dance important? Does everyone do it or is it dependent on circumstances? I have a feeling if I ask he’ll say it’s a busy weekend (and he also has no car.) A train ride is like 30 bucks though.
He’s very close to his family and pet too, like he didn’t want to leave at all when the time came…he was so stressed out. So I know staying away so long is hard for him and it’s not about whether he wants to make an effort for me. I’m just torn.