sometimes when friends or family complain about their situations (like money, school, or family issues), i do feel bad for them and i know they’re trying in their own way. but from my side, it often feels like either they’re not doing enough or maybe handling it the wrong way.
the thing is, i don’t actually know their full situation. even if they explain, it’s not always the whole picture. so i can’t exactly tell them what the “right” solution is. plus i’ve got my own stuff to manage too, so i don’t wanna take on the role of fixer.
but i also don’t wanna come across as cold or dismissive when they vent. sometimes i honestly don’t know what to say, and it gets a bit draining hearing the same complaints over and over.
any tips on what to say (or not say) so i can still be supportive without feeling mentally exhausted myself? thank you