so ive been struggling with guilt driven avoidance around asking for and receiving help.
i have difficulty communicating my needs directly such as im tired or asking if someone can help me with a chore so i tend delay it.
when someone notices if i havent done a task, i would say just set it aside i will do it later so normally they offer to take over but i straight up resist help bc i don't want to burden them but this ends up frustrating them despite me trying to explain how difficult it is for me to ask for help, the delayed communication disrupts their routine and leads to arguments.
and maybe even before asking , i brace for a no and that stress makes asking feel riskier than just quietly struggling.
the process of asking for help or informing stresses me out so instead of saying I can’t do this today i just dont hand it over at all bc the delay, guilt n the burden of communication feel heavier than going thru it all by myself.
yea so what do you think would be the best solution? or how should i prepare myself for a no and not let it consume me?