I keep scrolling through all these crazy conversations of people who don't know how to talk to each other and I wonder why they ever matched in the first place. It's like they cheated or used someone "good advise" and they got a match, but because they didn't learn the actual material or study, when it's time to do the date, they always fail. You can make your photos look amazing and put all the right things in your bio/description, but if you can't hold a conversation without getting triggered, red flagged, or mad then I don't think you were ready.
I"m not saying it's right or wrong, but I just noticed this trend.
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Yeah there are people using chat gpt to message people and then when they get on the date they’re fucked
Dating advice from where?
Not believing internet randos sounds only reasonable. I mean, in neutral spaces like a random thematic discord it’s a bit better if they happen to have a dating convo, but online dating forums attract specifically the most troubled with dating folks who you should certainly not listen to.
Better books are ok imo, though ofc one’s gotta have a good taste to locate the right ones, plenty are trash. I’ve gotten smth for myself from “no more mr nice guy” and (awkwardly named) “dating essentials for men”. Though in my world model it’s all about mental health and not advice, so “ok” means somewhat useful not life changing.
Yeah, that’s why the good ***advices*** are more generic. It’s about being the best you that you can be while understanding which parts of you might not be as attractive to a potential partner.
The best dating advice you can get is to stop listening to strangers online. That includes your favorite social media personality.
When are we going to learn that people only show the good side of their lives online? You can’t trust anyone to give you sound advice on the internet because if they did, they would be out of business.