Hello everyone. I initially wasn't gonna post this on reddit but i'm feeling so confused right now.
So, I am in another country with my gf right now for 4 months, we are roommates. And recently i found out on accident when i was writing something in her notes that she was manifesting (= you are "hoping"/you want it to happen irl in the future) for a guy she recently spent time with to have intercourse and all kinda of stuff with her (including getting married). She even included me in them by saying how i would be "unaware of what they're doing" and would leave them two to their "business". And then we were gonna break up and she could join the guy.
I was floored when I found this out. I don't mind innocent fantasies as long as it's not about someone she knows irl and she clearly knew this was out of my boundaries. When I confronted her about this, she apologized, said I did nothing wrong, that she felt guilty and was gonna tell me soon about this.
I initially believed she felt guilty, but I heard her say how I misinterpreted things, that she was just having fantasies and was totally honest about them (the events happened a month before i found out) and how she was scared how her parents and friends were gonna react if they learnt she cheated on me. Plus she hasn't stopped her fantasies about that guy, even though she told me she wasn't attracted to him or anything.
I asked a friend of mine whether I overreacted or if it was truly cheating and he told me it was. But i don't know, did i go too far (i told her that when we got back home it was over between us) or is this really cheating?
Even if i am in the wrong i just want to know what's truthful, i don't think i can trust my gf anymore rn
TLDR: found out my gf heavily fantasizes about a guy she knows, idk if it's cheating