I’m 39 and I met a girl at a bar a few weeks ago, randomly started chatting it up, bought her a drink, got the phone number, and I’ve seen her a couple times a week since then. This was the first time I met someone without a dating app and I was quite proud of myself.
I’ve been told I look younger than my age, still somewhat fit, I’ve got all my hair and no grays yet.
Turns out her birthday is coming up soon and she said she was turning 29 and that’s when I told her I was 39 and she was pretty surprised. I don’t foresee it changing things all that much, by that age they know what they want and the maturity level is there, unlike when I was younger dating a 21 year old and I was 29.
But when I saw her a week later she said she was telling her friends about me and it went something like:
“I told my friends I’ve been seeing this guy and he’s 39 and they’re like “omg are you kidding he’s 39!!”… “I told them no it’s not that bad he doesn’t look that old!”
And I’ll admit that stung a little, that’s the first time I’ve heard that because I’ve never been in this situation before.
I’m going to keep riding things out, we live about a 10min walk from each other, she’s a lawyer and I’m in sales. I’m just wondering how it’s worked out for anyone else in this situation and the only thing I’m a little worried about is when I meet the friends and if they’ll see me as just “too old” for her.