After a first date with a woman that went really well in late August, I'm unsure about whether to proceed.
When I texted her a day or two after our first encounter, she replied with some very positive comments and feedback.
However, on a gut level, I feel like the enthusiasm has waned or is waning.
A day or two later after that exchange, I left a VM in the middle of a weekday, suggesting a specific plan for this Sunday. She replied by texting me that evening, expressing enthusiasm for a second date, and concluded with, "I'll call you tomorrow (Wed) to firm things up."
Didn't hear a thing until she texted me at 6:30 yesterday (Fri) to see if "we were still on." I replied that we were, and right after she gave me her address, she said, "I'm tired, going to watch tv then go to sleep." It felt kind of abrupt – I didn't know texting was so exhausting. And I think a gap of nearly three days after saying she would call the next day makes me a bit uneasy.
What occurred to me in between was that she might have had some other plans brewing, and I'm her "backup guy." Now… we began as Facebook only friends some months ago. My posts are visible to hers, and vice-versa.. Over the last few days she wasn't communicating with me, she's posted about the restaurants she's been to, some silly stuff, some political stuff – at all different times of day and evening. (On our first date she told me she is semi retired, working part time). Clearly, she had time to at least text me in between.
I got into a conversation with a woman some months ago. "It should always be a 'hell yeah!' on both sides for it to work out" she told me. I like this woman a lot, but I'm not feeling a "hell yeah" from her.
I also think it's kinda impolite to wait until late in the day Friday to say, "hey are we still on?"
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Bro you are cooked unfortunately. If she has time to post on socials but is not responsive to your messages, she has better things to do. You are not her first priority. Move on to the next one!
For some people the “hell yeah” takes a little to ramp up.
That said she sounds like she’s either easily distracted, forgetful, or rude. Or all 3 I guess. I say find out which one it is on the date and go from there.