TL;DR My husband wants nicer things than I do, and I prefer simpler things (both because I just do and I do not want to have to make lots of money). He runs a business, and works about 50-55 hours a week and makes excellent money. His work is based on clients – he can take fewer and work less or vice versa. I work 40-45 hours a week at a job where I get four weeks' PTO a year (normally I actually get six – but this employer is stingy – however six weeks is my norm and I worked hard to have that). I make great money and can easily afford a quality, but not lux lifestyle. Husband wanted a nicer home, and I was clear this was not a priority for me, and we agreed I would pay less. Now though, he wants me to not use my four weeks of PTO, because he cannot get away. How do I manage this?
My personal take is… I did not want the excessive house. I'd gladly downsize if he wants to join me in a more rleaxed lifestyle. I feel like if he wants to work more to have this, that is his prerogative, but I should take my PTO. I understand the long-term implication could be poor for the marriage and accept that. I've worked hard to enjoy life and see the world.