It’s been a while since I was last single, and honestly things feel really different now. Back then, I met most of my partners just by talking to them during the day.

But these days, it seems like everything is about dating apps or meeting people at night when you’re out.

The problem is, I don’t really go out at night anymore, and apps just feel superficial to me.

So I’ve been wondering how do women feel nowadays if a guy just comes up during the day and says something simple like:

“Hey, sorry to bother you, but I found you attractive and I’d like to get to know you.”

My biggest worry is being misunderstood or coming across as creepy, even though my intentions are genuine.

So I’d love to hear your perspective:

do you think times have changed?


6 comments

  1. I personally would love that. Dating apps sound awful tbh and I haven’t used them at all (yet) lol. But if a man has enough courage to approach me in the wild I’d give him a shot, if I found him nice enough. It has happened to me in the gym a few times but I wasn’t single at the time and had to turn them down. It was sweet though. I’m the type of person that doesn’t mind being approached by strangers. Idk if that makes a difference.

  2. Time of day doesn’t matter to me

    As long as you are respectful and do it in a context where I don’t fear for my safety, you’d probably have good shot

  3. I have never in my life enjoyed having strange men decide they like how I look and then start trying to get my phone number. I had some flat out scary encounters when I was younger with men who didn’t want to take no for an answer, and that’s always the first thing I remember if those situations occur. 

    So anyway if it’s not an appropriate sort of situation like a meetup group where people are gathered for the purpose of meeting people, then I’d be looking for the safest way to leave. 

  4. depends a lot on vibe and timing. if you come off respectful, not blocking her way, not lingering too long, most won’t find it creepy. just read the room, if she’s giving short answers or clearly not interested, back off fast. times haven’t really changed that much, it’s still all about delivery and respecting boundaries

  5. The sheer number of times I’d ask a woman how they were doing just out of courtesy and they’d snap back at me with “I’M MARRIED” despite not having a ring on made me switch to online dating.

  6. I think it’s better at an event or group meet-up. At least everyone is there for a common interest, and it’s easier to start a conversation. Asking someone out at a grocery store could be weird for many reasons: making a woman feel like you only care about her looks, making her feel unsafe, or unwanted attention.

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