I 18 (F) am currently a college freshman and recent high school graduate. During high school I made a total of 0 friends. I talked to the people I sat next to in class, sat next to and talked to girls at lunch, joined clubs, and talked to just about anyone else I could.
Every time I would go up and sit next to or talk to people on the first few days they would give me a judgy look. I tried my best to be nice and make conversation but they just didn’t care to and would often just leave after i sat down with them.
I am now in college and i am struggling to make friends again. I have went to various school events for welcome week and talked to girls there, talked to the girls around me at a scholarship orientation, and walked around and said hi to people in my dorm.
I tried to do everything i could this time. Compliment girls and start conversations with “I love your top! where did you get it?” or “omg your room is so cute! where did you get that from?” I would try to sound extroverted and be very energetic and bubbly just like every other girl around me. I continued to ask questions and make conversation.
The results: “well it was nice to meet you” even though i only met them two minutes ago and barely got a chance to actually talk to them. or “well we are going to bed now, bye” even tho they had their door open?? or they simply respond with one word and just walk away and show NO interest at all.
What the hell am i doing wrong?? I’m doing EVERYTHING i should be. Being nice, open, starting conversations, complimenting. I Don’t understand why It just seems impossible for me to even get a single friend.
I am beyond lonely and it’s becoming so hard maintaining my self esteem. I asked one of my only good friends from middle school back home if she knew of any reason and her response was: “Your like the most normal person, I get intimidated by how casual you are in social situations.”
I don’t know what i’m supposed to do anymore. I’m doing everything i’m
supposed to but nobody wants to be my friend or even give me a chance.