I have someone in my life who keep doing the "nice" thing that I repeatedly told them not to, and people around me was praising them for how "lucky" I am to have someone in my life doing it for me. Meanwhile, I did not need it, it actually create more work for me (which I never mentioned because it sounds ungrateful), and I feel really in debt and uncomfortable afterward.
I do not know how to handle this because I did say "no" repeatedly and even return the items/favors multiple times in front of them. Sometimes this results in her feigning ignorant or being understanding of my request. Some even results in her being sulky or even get mad and start crying.
This person have a servere victim mentality. She's always tell us story of her husband, her kids, her coworkers, her friends, and somehow she is always the one that got abandoned or being treated unfair. If someone is not feeling well, she will say that she is feeling even worse etc…
She has a shopping addiction, but masked it as a "saving guru" because all of the things she bought are "on sale/good deal/BOGO/clearance…" then ended up giving away those things to the people around her. This applies to foods, clothes, household products etc… If someone turned them down she will have an absolute meltdown over it.
I tried my best to draw boundaries. We are not living under the same roof so I'm thankful for that.