Hi, 25F here.
Around february of this year, I quit my job overseas and came back to my small home town. Surprisingly, every single person in my close friend group happened to be here, and they were all excited that i was coming back.
In the very first week of our hangouts, i’ve realized that something has shifted in the group majorly. Before i left the country, we would mainly go to coffee shops, try new items in the menu, maybe have a walk or just hangout in a local park and have very deep conversations. But now, all they ever want to do is to drink. And they prefer going out after 9pm.
For a while, they’ve tried to meet maybe a little earlier, 8pm instead of one because i had logistics issues (im the only one living a little far away and none of us have a car lol). I was getting a little critical about their drinking habits, saying we should do different things sometimes. It’s not fun to spend 5 nights a week in a stupid small town bar. And i got a heavy backlash about me just robbing my nose into their business.
Then i got a job. Started working between 8-6 and i had do wake up at 7 am and that would mean that i was not going to be able to join their late night hangouts during weekdays. Again, they tried to accommodate me maybe for a while i felt very good about that up until the point where one of them that i was texting to thought i was getting passive aggressive about my situation. Which, to be fair, i do get passive aggresive at times but it was not the case in thar specific moment. After that, everything shifts. They went from “we thought that you wouldn’t be able to come” to ignoring my texts, my calls or straight up getting mad at me when i tried to confront them about how i felt.
I even cried saying, I live alone in this city and I’m not dead, im just working and working people actually need support too. They completely ignored those texts and carried their conversations to many different group chats that I’m not a part of.
It’s been more than a month since i saw or talked to any of them after them bluntly ignoring my texts in the group chat.
I feel lonely, completely discarded, and the fact that none of them seems to care that I’m slowly fading away just pisses me off too much.