My man and I have been together for just over 3 years and I just can’t ever finish when we have sex or he goes down on me. It has only happened like less than a handful of times. The only way I will for sure finish is with my toy in the mix. Which he is fine with it but I just want to be that girl who finishes quickly and consistently. That life seems lovely. Help.
I’ve always been bad at communicating in bed but I just don’t know what will make me finish besides grinding on top for what feels like hours. So I just feel helpless and just want him to finish so I don’t feel like a disappointment in myself and then make him feel bad. Idk. And then I just feel pressure (not from him but from my own brain) that I’m taking too long. And then I just get in my head about it. I wish he would take charge and be dominant but he’s not. I feel like I read all of these romance / smut books and I just wish I had that mind numbing sex life where I have fantastic sex with my partner and my brain is all in on the sex and it’s easy for me to get lost in the feeling. But it’s not like that.
I’m sure this is partly my fault for not communicating properly. I just want someone to read my body language and fuck me like my smut books do. But that hasn’t happened. 🙁