Idk why I feel socially inept when it comes to friendships. Id admit that I cant figure out the words to try to reconnect/reach out to see how people are doing. I just had a kid and feeling nostalgic in the sense that my current friends aren’t on the same wavelength/ place in life, some of my old college friends are and I really miss them . I feel like I was really stupid back in the day & I didn’t cherish the friendships that I should have. It’s a common pattern Ive noticed in my life but on the flip side i have to admit did they keep in touch with me? A part of me kinda feels like an asshole for thinking that way — maybe its me ego but I digress. Please let me know how to properly word reaching out to an old college friend and find out where theyre living to potentially ask to meet up?? I suck at this and I feel like such a loser but i rly miss them 🙁
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Edit: so after i posted this the thought also came across that I also got married and had a kid and did ANY of them reach out to me? No… so like am I just delusional in thinking theyd want to even meet up with me? God idk why this makes me feel so insecure!!
It really doesn’t matter what you say if/when you reach out, if they want to connect they will, if they don’t, they won’t.
I think your comment sums it up, there is a reason you both grew apart. You reaching out (and getting rejected), will just remind you that there’s a reason why you didn’t stay in touch (idk what that reason is, it doesn’t have to be nefarious, but probably that neither person really cares about the other tbh).