Seems like I never meet anyone I just work get nothing for it then do it again the next day. I don't even know how to meet people my age sometimes it feels like they don't go outside I think the real problem might be that they have familys and I don't. Not sure what to do with myself it feels to late to suddenly get a life in all honesty.
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I meet people daily but I don’t meet people I try to get close to or become friends with. I’m so content with not having obligations and shit.
No, not really.
I’m not opposed to it, but I have a family and a few friends and not enough time to try to expand my social circle.
Time to find a hobby. Not only will you meet people but even if you don’t, you’ll still do something other than work.
I have friends who meet up to play board games. I meet a lot of people through BJJ. Other people play pickleball or compete to see who can assemble a puzzle the fastest. There’s something for everyone.
Yeah pretty often. When traveling, at work, at bars, via dating apps, at a party of a friend, when playing certain sports, recently went to a community dinner…
Just start doing stuff dude.
I’ve been trying to do a lot of socialising this year, in order to make friends and maybe even find a partner. It’s very difficult to make more than casual acquaintances at this age. It seems like I’m the only one in any of these circumstances who doesn’t really have enough friends already or a partner.
Hobbies seem to be the way to meet like-minded people or at least you share a general interest with. I’m currently working a ridiculous number of hours and don’t want to spend time with work folks outside of work.
It’s rough out there.
I feel so fortunate but also cursed. I’m not good looking or like to socialize outside my group or friends. but I feel like I keep meeting new folks out side of work and I’m just like i rather not haha.
I’m pretty introverted but I also have a hard time saying no. so sometimes happy me says yes to events and stick through it. I also try to keep up with the friends I do have. might be a get together once a year or just sending text/Snapchat once a while.
in doing do I keep meeting new ppl. and I’m the terrible at remembering ppl faces and names.
I don’t even drink. I smoke weed but really only at home. Ill a puff or two when offered.
I have two big hobbies. disc golf and gaming so that has brought some friendships naturally. I’m also into nerdy like anime, fantasy, etc. luckily I have an okay place to stay so I can save to go to events or travel.
The people i have met are in their early 20’s-25. That age group seems way more open to socializing.
But it feels like a battle to get people organized to hangout and do activities. It’s a part time job. With the death of the “third place”, its not getting easier
Have you tried the federal sex bureau, saucy puppet show, or the rotting corpse of a whale?
I do, but its an extremely casual thing as I go to University to get my masters and I mingle with a lot of people. But Im not gonna be bonding a lot with young people lol.
I meet people all the time. I met one of the dudes that does the digital first down lines for Monday night football on Thursday cause he also happens to play in a local post-hardcore band and I was at their show hanging out with my friends who have a metalcore band.
Pretty much never meet people my age. Most people I meet are 50 to 55 now. Occasionally younger like 22. Even so it’s still pretty rare.
Making new friends is hard at this age. Many of us are guarded, some are not interested, and some just don’t have time. What I do is just talk to people. I’m the guy that stops strangers on the street to say I like their umbrella. Or can I pet your dog. The. We get into how long you’ve been in NYC. Where were you before that? Etc etc etc. just make conversation with people. It’s a skill so you’ll suck at it at first. But the key is to keep doing it. You will not find your people if you don’t talk to anyone
Really fed up with these complaints and just trying to make sure reddit has exposure to actual different opinions.
Stop whining and make an effort.
If you make an effort and the next whiner makes an effort. Then you have several effortful people. So on an so forth in social entropy.
But no, you all want someone to move your arms for you it feels like.
20s college students have bunches of friends largely when they meet up to study together or hang out doing nothing.
Now you all whine your top tired. Too tired for what? Bringing your butt and phone to someone else’s couch? You don’t have to talk but you’d be amazed at how just sharing a space feels.
When did you all forget this and why is the puzzle I am working on
What are your hobbies?
I like disc golf and I meet/talk to tons of people. Highly recommend you try that out.
Swing dancing did wonders for me. If you can find a group that does that in recommend that as well.
Also I was in a similar position once. I stopped trying to meet people and just started to do things I enjoy and people will kinda come with it.
I meetdozens of people every single day I’m at work.
Just going outside isn’t enough and let’s be real, random people are unlikely to jive with you on a deeper level. I’d recommend joining some social groups dedicated to hobbies that you’re passionate about. I sing in a local choir and I’ve met some of my best friends through that group. We all joined after we were 30 lol
Book clubs, beer swaps, birding groups, fun runners, hiking teams, table top gamers, film houses, etc. Go online and see what people are cooking up in your area. If there’s nothing that interests you, make a group on MeetUp and send out a call for likeminded people.
Honestly tho, check out your parks and rec/local nature groups. They’re likely looking for volunteers for cleanups, weed pulls, or tree plantings. If you’re at all environmentally motivated when you go outside, it’s great fun to plant trees with a bunch of hippies lol. I volunteered at a local nature center for a couple of years when I was in a dark spot following my grandpas death and a bad break up. It really forced me to get our of my head and helped me appreciate the little things like seeing kids get jazzed about bear scat
I have not met anyone new in about a decade now, but I am basically homebound so I’m not a good example.
Yes.
New people that I connect with quickly and maintain a fresh relationship with, these are rare nowadays for me at 37. I have a lot of friends and a variety of circles but they’re relationships I’ve had for ten plus years. I can see why it’s difficult to make new mates later in life.
Yes all the time… I don’t really know how/why, it’s just kinda random. I meet people through family, work, hobbies and friends of friends, but also random things too. For example I helped a lady with bags on the bus and she turned out to be one of my neighbors.
Join a BJJ gym, don’t _try_ to make friends, let it happen over the next few months naturally.
Respectfully, you may want to work on your communication skills; your grammar could use some work.
I meet people everytime but not too deep, just a casual meet where you forget them quickly
I’ve played golf with a few people over the years that I think I could have ultimately been friends with if I wanted to. For golf, get paired up with someone you like, “hey man kinda weird, but it was fun playing with you, wanna try to grab a tee time next weekend?”