We’ve moved around a lot for my husband’s diplomatic work and our kids have always managed to adapt but now that we’ve been home for a couple of years our teenage daughter is facing yet another school switch and this one’s different. The school my husband wants her to attend again is the same one where she was bullied before. He believes she’s older now more confident and that she genuinely wants to return I see it differently I still remember how deeply it affected her and how hard it was to get her through it.
We’ve had so many talks about it and while we both want what’s best for her we’re stuck. He says I’m being too emotional i feel like he’s brushing off valid concerns It’s not a huge fight but it’s become this silent tension between us especially when school stuff comes up. We both agreed that maybe we need some help working through this not just to fix the school issue but because it’s clearly triggering deeper stuff in our communication. We decided to try couples therapy but with our schedules and hesitations we didn’t know where to start.
I still don’t know what the right decision is about the school. But at least now we’re not just looping the same argument we’re actually unpacking the layers under it. Has anyone else hit a wall like this in parenting decisions?