This is a long post. I don't know how to put this, but this is to give the background about me.
I am a 27 year old female. All these years I've been trying to make friends and try my best to keep in touch. I always forgive and think I might have messed things up and forget about what people happened even if it is not my fault.
I don't understand how some people tend to have so many friends and try to hang out. I have tried everything, being quiet, being crazy, being supportive, doing things their way, spending more time over calls or texts, help them with academics, everything.
Honestly all these years I feel like I am either just being used or I am seen as a person who just rants stuff to them. I don't want either. I have been so selfless that I put everything aside when someone asks me for help. It's wrong, I know. But I thought that's what it takes to make friends.
Couple years ago I moved abroad, moved away from my only other human Circle my family and a couple of friends I made in the last 25 years. I seem to talk to a lot of people, but they either ghost me, make friends through me, call me their good friend and never really hang out with me or just meet among themselves. They know that I am always up for a plan.
I always am full of energy and love hanging out with people. I even tried listening to other people's problems, tried to talk about general things like music and adventure or food. Still didn't work. Why?
Here is an example : There is a group that I like to hang out with. I somehow don't think they like me a lot because I am not gen z enough for them. I asked one person if we could meet because she is moving across the country. She said she was too busy and the other girl I am close to said she was too tired to meet. But they just posted their story of them going on a long drive. This is not the first time. When I ask them how it went, they say they were part of a prayer group and went then.
Here is my question, what am I doing wrong? How should I make friends? Why is it so hard for me?
I'm so frustrated sorry guys, long post.