For past two years my libido was not great. I had our second child two years ago.
After our first was born, I bounced back immediately and we didn't have a problem. But with our second, we didn't have sex that much, maybe once a month. I rejected him a lot but I tried to not be rude about it. One year ago he stopped initiating and I basically intiated once a month because I felt so guilty.
He formed a crush on his co-worker, she is very pretty. He told me about it and then asked for separation.
We are in therapy and he opened up about how hurt he is with our deadbedroom situation and however hard he tries, he can't let go. He has reached the conclusion that damage may be permanent.
Our therapist asked him to get therapy for himself because he is probably feeling guilty about his crush and sabotaging himself.
She also told me that damage may really be permanent but it's important and if thats the case, we can work through it so that we both can move on.
Is it a bad idea for me to have hope that things can change?