I have a husband whom I dated for 7 years prior to our wedding and been married for 3 years soon. So yeah 10 years together, from our early twenties to our ealy thirties.
We have a 1,5y old baby, which we both wanted and couldn’t wait for. Things started to be rough however after our baby was born. My husband got diagnosed with ADHD and currently trying different medications as well as going to therapy sessions…I can’t even say he is not trying to better things. My problem is that he overworks sometimes until 1-2 a.m. He has a normal office job that does not require this amount of overtime nor is compensated in any way. This us s result of his hyperfocus. It leaves me with managing a part time job, the baby and all household chores basically by myself as we have no family around us. In addition to that the even more problematic thing is his mood swings. Depression turning into anger, melt downs, anxiety attacks. These were somewhat present eay before the baby but it seemed to have calmed down for a while…until they came back worse than ever. He loses his temper with me and the kid (tho much more rarely) and sometimes I feel like I don’t want to live a life like this anymore.
But again, he is trying…and financially I’d be fd without him right now. I feel like my life is a joke…we did the whole big wedding, decided to have our babygirl for what…just to have an absent parent who is shitty to me half the time. When do you give up on your spouse and choose yourself?