I've noticed over several years that people talk to me differently. I'm usually an extroverted conversationalist. When I walk into the room, I smile big and say hello to everyone, give hugs, acknowledge their presence, pass on a compliment, and catch up on their latest updates. People call me a social butterfly, super extroverted, and full of energy.
Yet, in friendships, I feel like I'm treated differently– Indifferent and avoided. I notice this when people tend to talk warmly to others, but I walk in and the room is suddenly cold. People's smiles drop. Topics surround boring, mundane things; even though I try to bring up fun scenarios, we're back to either complaining or talking about work. They jump and scream at the sight of someone they have only spent a few times, but not to me, someone they've known longer. They give me ambiguous and nonchalant replies, but are passionate and fueled when others ask the same. They laugh louder and seem to feel more at ease with anyone but me. Even though I don't put myself down, nor do I speak overly highly of myself, I stay secure and confident and keep topics about the other person/other people. I don't speak negatively of others. I don't put people down.
But it's not like these people are unfriendly or scrutinizing. I've seen them be warm and loving to others, just not to me. This has been something constant in my life.
Is it my mentality where I'm picking up on every negative cue? Do any of you deal with this? What's going on with me socially?