I’m a married guy (both late 20s) and I’ve noticed something about our sex life that’s leaving me confused.
Whenever I try to give my wife longer foreplay (fingering, oral, slow buildup, etc.), she enjoys it for a while but then starts to feel too relaxed and she gets off quickly. Sometimes she even says she feels a bit sleepy and then asks me to just have intercourse and finish quickly. Even during penetration, after a few strokes she often says “finish it.”
I’ve tried different pacing, taking it slow, focusing on her pleasure first, but it usually ends the same way. It makes me wonder if I’m doing something wrong, or if she just prefers shorter, less drawn-out sex.
I sometimes feel cut short. Like sometimes I want to eat her out or finger her and keep going with kiss. Maybe adding toys. But she seems more interested in finishing it off
Has anyone else experienced this with their partner? Is it more of a physical sensitivity/relaxation response, or maybe she just prefers quicker sex?
What can I do to have longer and satisfactory sex? Please provide help.