So, first – this is NOT a sex question. And also NOT an intimacy or connection question, but this flair fits it the best. Me (M29), her (F29)
A few weeks ago, we had an outdoor weekend – hiking, biking, canoeing etc. When we came back we were dead-ass tired and fell asleep within 20 mins of being ready for bed. Somehow we ended with me being on her ribs and my hands on her breasts. That's how I woke up and then got her to wake up too.
I don't know if that triggered something I'm her – she now wants to sleep with me holding her breasts. Not just touching, like actual holding with a minimal amount of pressure, like loosely holding a tennis ball.
She said it feels comfortable and assuring and keeps her boobs warm. She has been getting good sleeps from that.
I AM NOT. Imagine being big spoon, having one hand under her, another under her top arm, trying to cup and hold her breasts while sleeping. It is NOT AT ALL possible. In the middle of night, she'll wake up if my hands move away, or if I just keep my hands on her breasts, but not 'holding' them.
No, she doesn't want to be groped and it is not sexual at all, but just wants her breasts to be held.
I thought about talking this out – but her being her, and being a light sleeper and her love language being doing things/acts of service, if I bring this up, she will agree to what's comfortable for me and then won't get a good night's rest.
Please suggest some positions that will also be comfortable for me.
I tried holding onto one boob – that didn't work out too well, so both boobs it is.