I (29M) am in a long-distance relationship with a woman (35F). We met online and haven’t seen each other in person yet, but we’ve been getting to know each other for 6 months.
Well, 3 days ago I sent her a video of myself and she had a strange reaction… she told me she doesn’t know how she feels since watching the video. Before, she seemed really in love with me because of the things she used to say, but now she has become cold.
She said that in the photos I sent her before, my energy was like I wanted to “pin her against a wall and kiss her passionately” (her literal words), that in the photos my energy was like Barry Allen (the actor who plays Flash), but in the video I looked more like Sheldon Cooper—basically, she called me a nerd.
She told me I look like her grandfather, and that I look like a mix of someone young and old at the same time. She even said I catfished her, which makes no sense because she has 10 pictures of me! She sent me a picture of an unattractive woman and asked me if I would date someone like that… I replied that “an unattractive person has the same right to be loved as anyone else.”
These kinds of conversations about my appearance are VERY, VERY UNCOMFORTABLE for me. Honestly, I’m thinking about ending the relationship, and she told me she just needs time to get used to me…
For the first time in my life, I’ve had anxiety attacks over these past 3 days. I’m having a horrible time. Please, what should I do?? I am so confused
TL;DR: I’m in a 6-month long-distance relationship. I sent her a video of myself and my girlfriend reacted strangely, saying I seem nerdy, comparing me to her grandfather, and criticizing my appearance. This has made me feel very uncomfortable, I’ve had anxiety attacks, and I’m considering ending the relationship, even though she says she just needs time to get used to me.